Entitled fiancée insists on wearing late MIL’s wedding dress, sister-in-law refuses to let her, causing family and BIL to turn on her: “You’re being unnecessarily difficult over just a dress”

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    AITAH for refusing to let my brother’s fiancée wear my late mother’s wedding dress?

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    I (30F) lost my mom five years ago. Before she passed, she gave me her wedding dress. She told me she wanted me to have it, whether I chose to wear it at my own wedding, repurpose it, or just keep it as a memory of her. It's one of the most sentimental things I own.
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    My older brother, Jake (33M), is getting married in a few months to his fiancée, Laura (29F). We have a good relationship, but we're not super close. Last week, Laura asked if we could meet up for coffee, and that's when she dropped a bombshell.
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    She told me she had always dreamed of wearing a "meaningful" dress when she got married and thought it would be so special if she could wear my mom's wedding dress. She said it would be a beautiful way to honor my mom at the wedding.
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    I was completely caught off guard. I told her that while I appreciated her sentiment, my mom gave the dress to me, and it was very personal. I wasn't comfortable letting someone else wear it, especially because I still might want to use it in some way for my own wedding one day.
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    Laura immediately got upset and said I was being selfish. She told me it wasn't fair because she never got to meet my mom, and this would be a way for her to feel connected to her. She also said my mom would have wanted her to wear it since she's joining the family.
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    I stood my ground and told her no. I suggested she find another way to incorporate my mom's memory— maybe by wearing a piece of my mom's jewelry or a pair of her shoes but Laura said that wasn't the same.
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    Now my brother is involved, and he told me I should reconsider because it would mean a lot to Laura. He said I was being unnecessarily difficult over “just a dress." Even some of my relatives are saying I should "think about the bigger picture" and how this would be a touching tribute.
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    I feel guilty, but at the same time, this dress means the world to me. So, Reddit, AITAH for refusing to let her wear it?
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    BeneficialSundae6... 15h ago NTA. Your mother left it to YOU. Your decision is final. No one gets to tell you otherwise.
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    Free-Place-3930 • 15h ago NTA. Don't be guilted into hurting yourself for others. You said No. Everyone trying to push you is showing you huge disrespect.
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    Temporary Alfalfa... • 15h ago Nta and make sure they can't steal it
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    jrm1102 15h ago NTA - Your mom gave the dress to you. Had your brother approached you first maybe this would be a little more palatable, but I dont think she should he wearing this dress and you're not an AH for saying no at all.
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    lilolememe 15h ago NTA This is your inheritance. No one else is entitled to it. If anyone is being selfish or difficult, it's your future SIL and brother. The audacity is shocking.
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    Put the dress where no one in the family can get it because this is something they may very well try to do.
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    Winter_Parsley_3798 • 15h ago Sounds like a million other stories on here. I'm not an expert on chatgpt, but this has a lot of re-used elements.
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    . Slight_Situation_871 15h ago "It's just a dress." Meaning it's not that big of a deal and you should let her her wear the dress. "It's just a dress." Meaning it's not that big of a deal and she can find another one.
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    "It's just a wedding." Meaning it's not that big of a deal?
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    GardenSafe8519 • 15h ago She has NO connection to your mom because she never met your mom. What a weirdo. Tell her to honor her own mother (even if she's alive). The dress was given to you and maybe you will be wearing it on your wedding
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    day as a way to feel closer to YOUR mom. NTA.
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    crazybicatlady86 • 15h ago How is her wearing your mothers dress, a woman she never met, meaningful to her? Can't she wear her own mother's dress? I think offering her a piece of your mother's jewelry to wear is generous enough. Definitely ΝΤΑ

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